There will probably come a time where things just… don’t seem to be in place. It might not be particularly horrible, and you may not even be depressed or miserable, but you will be aware that something just isn’t right. Something changed and even if you can’t put your finger on it, you know that things aren’t the same. This may be a good thing, maybe not at the moment, but for the future. This may also be a bad thing. This may just be a random thing that happens so your life isn’t boring. The point is, it is likely that at some point, you might feel that things are not where they are supposed to be.
Despite how strong we’d like to seem, there are many things we could give into; defeat, jealousy, depression, anger, self-loathing, self-pity, despair, insecurity… Just to name a few. There are so many temptations along the road, and it sometimes is so tiring to stay on your feet, that giving into something “bad” seems to be a lot easier than fighting to feel good. Shouldn’t feeling good be… well… good? Why should it be such a struggle to be happy? Why does it seem like there is always an obstacle in the way of happiness?
Well… At times like these, it helps to think of the world as… fair. Of course, you may instantly think that life isn’t fair, and really, it might not be even close to fair, but maybe in the big picture, there’s a reason for all the suffering. Let’s say that, for you to have a certain amount of happiness, you would need to go through a certain amount of learning(or what some people would like to call “suffering”). Maybe for you to be ready and capable of accepting and withstanding intense happiness, you need to know what it feels like to be intensely upset. Maybe people are naturally happy, but only those that have actually felt what sadness can do, maybe those are the ones that can actually feel happiness as intensely as many would like. Happiness is such an immense reward in life… that really… it should be worth fighting for. It is something so valuable, something that pretty much everyone is looking for, and I think that something that amazing is worth fighting for. Maybe sometimes life just wants to give you a reminder, not on what it feels like to be sad, but what it is like to appreciate happiness. They do say that sometimes you only learn to value something once it is gone, so maybe life just has a small way of reminding us to appreciate what we have once in a while.
Does it help to think like that? Maybe, maybe not. Personally, I believe it does. I believe that for one to truly, truly embrace happiness, they need to be familiar with sadness. I’m not saying, or suggesting, that everyone should suffer and go through hardships. I just believe that one should be familiar with it. Honestly, it doesn’t even have to be your own hardship. Helping others through their problems can sometimes be the best thing to make yourself feel better, and let’s face it… sometimes you need a reminder that your life could be a lot worse.
So what do we do when things don’t feel as we believe they should? We just wait. No storm can last forever, the sun eventually has to come back out. Things may not be perfect, but we have to make the best with what we have and believe that gradually, it’ll get better than before, one day at a time. If you could choose between having hope in the future and dreading the future, which would you choose?